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Keeping an Abundant Mindset when Life Hands you Lemons


Does an abundance mindset depend on how much money you have?  Or what kind of house you live in?

I don’t think so and I hope you don’t either. . .

A very dear friend of  mine received some shocking news on November 30.  The company that he worked for had lost two major contracts and he was being laid off. 



Photo by  Luz Adriana Villa A.

What is an Abundance Mentality?

If abundance is not defined by your possessions or the amount of money you have, what is it defined by?  It is defined as a feeling, a knowing that there is enough, that you are enough, that you are safe and secure. 


Is it easier to feel that way if you have lots of money in the bank, a fabulous house, cars, jewels . . . all the trappings of traditional success?  Yes, for some people it is.  For others, and perhaps you are one of them, no. 

There are people who can have all of their possessions stripped away from them who maintain an abundance thought pattern.  They know that no matter what, they are abundant. 

What is Your Abundance Dependent On?


Just YOU.  There is a decision that needs to be made, that you will understand that the feeling of being abundant is inside of you, deep inside, ready to be awakened. 

At this time of the year, when the stores shout out the sale of the day and emails shout at you to “Buy this, NOW”, it is comforting to know that yes, even though you might make these purchases, they do not define you or your level of abundance.

Only you do that.  Even if your level of financial success is not where you want it to be, once you acknowledge that you are already abundant, everything else will follow. . . and it won’t even matter because you already have that feeling, right there.

An Abundance Mindset During the Holidays

Whether you have the evidence of manifested abundance in the form of x amount of dollars or you have just lost your job, you can have a bountiful, blessed Christmas and Holiday season.

Set a budget and stick to it (don’t max out your credit cards!)

Lower your expectations (is it necessary to have enough food for 50 people when there are only 5 of you?)

Remember, it’s the thought that counts (even if you give coupons or shop at the dollar store)

Surround yourself with the people you love and keep the traditions that are important (sing carols, hang your decorations, bake cookies)

Be creative (with your gift ideas or how you celebrate)

Remember those less fortunate than you (there always is someone less fortunate than you. . . we live in a land of plenty, even if we can’t see it. . . think running water. . .)

Step out of the negative; surround yourself with beauty and music

Accept invitations if your friends or family extend them, isolation doesn’t help at all


Nourish your spiritual side, meditate, pray, have a spiritual practice to comfort you 

My friend will be okay because he does have an abundance mindset.  No matter what the short term results, he knows that he is the creator of his future and that all will be well because it already is.

How about you?  Give yourself the gift of knowing that no matter what your circumstance, you will be okay and abundance is yours for the asking.

"Drive your own life. . .you deserve to, don't you?" Sherie Venner

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I am a Relationship Coach who helps others create happy, healthy, loving relationships…including the relationship they have with themselves…by breaking through those blocks and barriers to success. I use various techniques gathered through training as a Master Practitioner of NLP, timeline, hypnosis and common sense gathered through life experience.

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  • Dr. Daisy Sutherland December 18, 2011, 3:38 pm

    Thanks so much for sharing this article. I’m sorry about your friend but as you mention he has lots to be thankful for…thanks for the reminder to many that it’s not the gifts we purchase but those that we give from our hearts that truly count. Merry Christmas!

    • Sherie December 18, 2011, 5:39 pm

      It is definitely the thought that counts! Merry Christmas to you, Dr. Daisy and thank you!

  • Susan Preston December 17, 2011, 8:07 pm

    Wonderful message! It really resonated with me when you said, An Abundance Mentality, “is defined as a feeling, a knowing that there is enough, that you are enough, that you are safe and secure.” Absolutely!!! A lot of people don”t understand this and as a result their focus is on quite the opposite and unfortunately that is what they get. Thank you, for sharing this. I will keep your friend in my prayers.

    • Sherie December 17, 2011, 10:13 pm

      : D I appreciate your comment, Susan, and thank you very much for your prayers for my friend. I will let him know!

  • Solvita December 17, 2011, 10:30 am

    Your friend will be fine, as your friend has you Sharie. The wealth consciousness is key to finding a better job and I heard from many people that redundancy has been a blessing in their lives… as they actually found much better job or work to do. Thank you!

    • Sherie December 17, 2011, 1:04 pm

      Absolutely love your view point, Solvita…..yes, something better is on the way for him….: D

  • Lisa Birnesser December 16, 2011, 9:13 am

    Great article, Sherie. Abundance does come from knowing you are enough. It’s that “I’m not good enough” thought that drives us to fill up our lives with so many things we don’t really need. Thanks!

    • Sherie December 16, 2011, 1:17 pm

      Thank you, Lisa….yes that thought of “I’m not good enough” is a stinker!

  • Norma Doiron@Social Media | Graphics | Web Design | Health, Wellness, Weight Loss December 15, 2011, 4:24 pm

    Great, great information. When things like this happens, it puts our priorities in the right place! Keep it simple and focus on the reason for the Season.
    The LEARNED Preneur @ NormaDoiron.NET

    • Sherie December 15, 2011, 4:42 pm

      Right on, Norma! : D

  • Rob Hodgins December 15, 2011, 4:49 am

    Great posting, Sherie. Sorry to hear about your friend’s predicament, but it’s great that your friend has a mindset like that. My favourite “abundance mindset step” is this one:

    “Surround yourself with the people you love and keep the traditions that are important (sing carols, hang your decorations, bake cookies)”

    • Sherie December 15, 2011, 9:35 am

      It is one of my favourites, too! Thank you for your comment, Rob!

  • Julie Weishaar December 14, 2011, 2:31 pm

    Hi Sherie, I am sorry to hear about your friend – as you know – he is not alone in this economy – it is really tough all around. Thanks for the reminder to focus on what we do have and get out abundance mindset!

    • Sherie December 14, 2011, 2:47 pm

      Thank you, Julie….yes, unfortunately it has become more common….time for us all to change how we think about the economy (then it can turn around)!!

  • Lorrie December 14, 2011, 2:11 pm

    This one was my favorite: Step out of the negative; surround yourself with beauty and music. So true and this time of year offers so much beauty at every turn. Thanks, nice post!

    • Sherie December 14, 2011, 2:48 pm

      Yes, this is one of my favorite times of year….there is SO much beauty all around! Thanks, Lorrie for your comment.

  • Carrie Raab December 14, 2011, 12:31 pm

    Great reminders for the holidays! It is always better to give than to receive and the “thought that counts” is very true! We, as Americans, have an abundance, even when we feel we “lack.” We have so much and your abundant mindset advise is terrific. Thanks!

    • Sherie December 14, 2011, 1:10 pm

      It is the thought that counts…..sometimes we forget! Thank you, Carrie!