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How Being in the Now Frees You

Everything is relationship. That fact is one that I knew…and yet, it was brought home even more as I attended an intensive Licensed Master Practitioner of NLP TM training. When you attend one of these trainings, there is one underlying theme…the power is in being in the now. The past has gone, the future can be planned…yet all change happens in the present moment…because, really, it is all there is.

Being in the Now Will Free You

Do you know the expression,  "The truth shall set you free?".  It's true. Yes. Everything…and I mean everything…that happened in the past…whether it was "good" or it was "bad" has brought you to this moment in time, this right now moment. 

And in this moment, you have the power of choice and therein is the secret to everything. You always have a choice, even if it is only to choose how you feel about something. There are myriads of possibilities that open to us when we acknowledge and accept that we have choice.

So, how would your life look different if you did accept that you could choose to make everything new…right now? One of the really neat experiences in Master Practitioner training is that you work with other NLP practitioners and do the exercises with each other. Even though most of us have been working in this self development arena for many years, we still have stuff to work on…because it is all about progress, not perfection, isn't it? : D

One of the exercises that we had to do was a live presentation in front of the group that would be recorded on video. I was comfortable and excited to do the presentation. I was horrified at the idea of  having to watch it played back on the television screen! It was necessary…and you know…when it came down to it, it was my refusal to be in the now that was causing me pain.

Choosing to Be in the Now

So, I chose to be in the now…and watch the replay on that BIG television screen with BOTH eyes wide open. I saw how I looked to others through the unforgiving eye of the video lens. I heard my voice as others heard it. It was not what I expected (but I imagine that it never is… for anyone…lol). Sitting there and seeing what I saw and hearing what I heard…and being in the now…it worked! 

I was able to watch that video, there in that room, with all of my fellow students and my instructors. I was able to look at my performance with an accepting eye…to not judge how I looked or how I sounded…and to make decisions on how I would do the next presentation (which would also be recorded) a little bit differently. I accepted myself in that moment and it was wonderful…

I have avoided doing video on my blog for quite some time…and now…you can look forward to me doing some recordings (once I figure out how to work my camera!)…because it is okay…

I created this inspirational quote (from an unknown source) graphic for my facebook page (shameless plug, here…if you haven’t checked out my page, please do so, I share some neat things over there!). 

Know this…that being in the now is right there for all of us…we just have to accept it and let it be…

"Drive your own life…you deserve to, don't you?"  Sherie Venner

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I am a Relationship Coach who helps others create happy, healthy, loving relationships…including the relationship they have with themselves…by breaking through those blocks and barriers to success. I use various techniques gathered through training as a Master Practitioner of NLP, timeline, hypnosis and common sense gathered through life experience.

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  • Designer Rob Russo May 16, 2012, 11:06 am

    I love looking back and realizing “oh, that’s why THAT happened that way…” since I believe everything happens for a reason. It is great reminisce on the fun memories of the past, but never dwell on the so-called bad ones.

    • Sherie May 16, 2012, 11:54 am

      That is a very good strategy to have, Rob…and I believe that everything happens for a reason to! Onwards!! Thanks so much for your comment!

  • RJ, the Hope Coach May 12, 2012, 11:51 pm

    What a powerful post – thank you! I’ve learned to embrace every single experience that has brought me to THIS moment.

    • Sherie May 13, 2012, 10:02 am

      That is where the power is, Ronae…wonderful!!! Thank you and thanks for commenting!!

  • Susan Preston May 12, 2012, 12:52 pm

    Thank you for another brilliant article, Sherie! You are soooooo right! Living in the now is a must! This really resonated with me when you wrote, “Even though most of us have been working in this self development arena for many years, we still have stuff to work on…because it is all about progress, not perfection, isn’t it?” That is so true!

    • Sherie May 12, 2012, 1:05 pm

      Susan, it really is so true…progress…not perfection!! Thank you for your kind words and your comment, I so appreciate you!!

  • Mandy Edwards May 9, 2012, 8:05 pm

    Thank you for such a great message!

    • Sherie May 9, 2012, 8:08 pm

      Thank you for reading it and commenting, Mandy! : D

  • Anita May 9, 2012, 4:34 pm

    Very powerful post! Love it and I have shared 😉

    • Sherie May 9, 2012, 5:00 pm

      Anita, thank you so much for your lovely comment and for the share! I SO appreciate you!! <3

  • elizabeth May 9, 2012, 11:23 am

    This is a great way to cope with stress and be more effective in your work! The here and now! This has done so much to help me reduce the level of stress and anxiety I have felt in my life! Love each moment..let the past be the past and plan for the future by working for it today!

    • Sherie May 9, 2012, 11:54 am

      Absolutely, Elizabeth, what an awesome way to live your life!! Thanks so much for your comment! <3

  • Sara Nickleberry May 9, 2012, 9:48 am

    You are so brave to watch your own video LOL. I have video phobia as well, and you know what? I’ve decided to get over it. I’m working on video now also. Thanks Sherie!

    • Sherie May 9, 2012, 9:58 am

      Sara, I can hardly wait to see yours!! You’re welcome and thank you!

  • Alexandra McAllister May 9, 2012, 9:48 am

    WOW! Such a powerful message, Sherie! Yes, chose to be in the now! I look forward to seeing your videos! Great job! Thank you!

    • Sherie May 9, 2012, 9:59 am

      Thank you, Alexandra…fighting with the technical side of the camera, now…lol….

  • Suzanne Jones May 9, 2012, 8:29 am

    So much has been said about being in the ‘now’. Eckhart Tolle has a book named the same. It is a hard concept to live, without something to help us along, such as your experience. I experienced the same in my own practice. Being hypnotized by my fellow hypnotherapist brought this to light, not to mention previous frustrations. It is awesome when we can live day to day and not fret about the past or be anxious about the future!
    Way to go Sherie!

    • Sherie May 9, 2012, 9:00 am

      Thank you, Suzanne, thanks for sharing your awesome insights!! Yes, being in the now can be difficult to do, yet necessary…one day at a time, right? : D

  • Sue Graber May 9, 2012, 7:57 am

    Great article, Sherie. Love how when we can become transparent and share who we really are it allows us to BE IN THE NOW! It’s actually takes a lot of burden away! Thanks for sharing!

    • Sherie May 9, 2012, 8:01 am

      Thank you, Sue,and you are right…it does take the burden away! Thanks for your comment!

  • denny hagel May 9, 2012, 7:11 am

    Love this article! There truly is nothing more freeing than choosing to leave yesterday behind and see each day as a NEW day! I would like to add if I may that as children we automatically live in the now…until all those around (parents, teachers, coaches etc) us start beating the drum of yesterday and tomorrow! We have much to learn from our children!

    • Sherie May 9, 2012, 7:15 am

      That is a wonderful point, Denny! Yes, when we were children we did live in the moment, in the now, didn’t we?? Love it!! Thanks for commenting!

  • Lori May 9, 2012, 6:41 am

    I love how you said “Choosing to be you in the now”. So powerful! Thanks for sharing!

    • Sherie May 9, 2012, 6:50 am

      Thank you, Lori!!

  • Sue Glashower May 9, 2012, 6:40 am

    Great post Sherie! Choose to be in the Now…I love that! I look forward to your videos!

    • Sherie May 9, 2012, 6:49 am

      Thank you, Sue!!

  • Rob Hodgins May 7, 2012, 7:58 am

    Wise words!
    Now really is all that there is. We can’t do anything with what has passed except learn from it. And we can’t do anything about what is to come except to be ready for it. We should be trying to wring as much out of the now as we can!

    • Sherie May 7, 2012, 10:47 am

      Absolutely, Rob…we just open our arms and step into the now and embrace it….BIG time! Thank you for your comment and I appreciate that you shared the post…that is so awesome of you!!