Smart men and smart women. They don’t set out to make relationship mistakes…and yet they do.
It’s easy to see the relationship mistakes that other people make.
Have you ever been watching a movie…and you could see just where the character was going…and that they were making a big mistake in their relationship.
Didn’t you want to yell at them as you saw them on the screen making those mistakes…“Don’t do that!”?? I know that I do…sometimes…; D
And in real life, we can see it in other people’s relationships…just like watching a movie…you can see it unfold. It’s as clear as day. You want to warn them. You can see that they are walking off a relationship cliff.
Yet, when it comes to seeing our own relationship mistakes…that is a different story.
These Relationship Mistakes:
Epic Relationship Mistake #1: Being Taken For Granted
We all need to feel valued. We all need to feel important. Each of us need to feel significant…especially that the people we are in relationship with feel that we are important.
If you feel that you are being taken for granted…or you are taking your relationship partner for granted…think about what your life would be without that partner…imagine what you would feel like if they were gone…
We only have the guarantee of now. Life is short. Let the people in your life know that you love them and appreciate them. If you don’t know the warning signs of being taken for granted, click here.
Epic Relationship Mistake #2: Breaking Trust
This is a big one, isn’t it…because without trust, there really is no love. Keep your word in your relationships. Be faithful to yourself and to your relationship.
What if the trust issues you have aren’t that you’ve broken trust…what if they are that you’ve put your trust in the wrong person?
Because that happens…trusting someone that you don’t know…really know…putting your faith in their words and not their actions. So…make sure that the person you are putting trust in, is worthy of it.
Epic Relationship Mistake #3: Putting Your Life On Hold
Have you ever heard a story like this? Let’s imagine this relationship between Lisa and Barry. Lisa decided when she was a young bride to put her career on hold, work two jobs, and put her husband Barry through law school.
She worked hard and so did Barry. They took the time to raise two children during the time frame. Lisa was very proud of Barry after he finally finished school. Lisa then thought that the time was right for her to return to school.
She approached Barry and suggested that now that he was working, it would be wonderful if she could get back on the career track that she left, early in their marriage.
Imagine her surprise, when Barry said no…that he wouldn’t support her the way she supported him…don’t put your own life on hold…make sure that you are fulfilling your own hopes and dreams…
Epic Relationship Mistake #4: Falling in Love with A Person’s Potential
What you see is what you get. No matter how much “potential” a person has, if you don’t love them for who they are right now…in this moment…if you think they will be “better” or “improve” down the line…you have unrealistic expectations.
Love them for who they are, not for who you think they will be. You deserve that too…to be loved for who you are…now…
Epic Relationship Mistake #5: Keeping Secrets
In a relationship, there must be honesty, transparency, and no secrets. If you find yourself doing that…keeping secrets…you must ask yourself “Why?”
If you keep secrets because you don’t feel safe to share what you are thinking…or you don’t feel physically safe…that is a problem…isn’t it?
Learning From Those Relationship Mistakes
And remember this: The only real mistake is the one from which we learn nothing. – John Powell
We all make mistakes…and we can learn from those relationship mistakes. When we can recognize them, we don’t need to repeat them…or carry them into the future with us…we can leave those mistakes in the past…where they belong…and move forward into a brighter…more brilliant future.
Ultimately, you are the one in control of your life…and how you feel…and what you do in your relationship does make a difference…doesn’t it?
“Drive your own life, you deserve to, don’t you?” Sherie Venner
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