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Be Your Own Detective: Because What You Don’t Know is Costing You

When I firstdetective started learning about NLP, I didn’t know that my childhood love of mysteries and detective stories was going to play out this way in people’s lives.

My love of the stories of Sherlock Holmes and unravelling mysteries through the adventures of Doctor Who…well…they don’t compare to the satisfaction of unravelling the mystery of why a person keeps creating the same results in their lives.

People can create relationship anxiety, phobias, failures in career or relationships, depression…whether they know that they are creating it or not…through limiting beliefs and strategies that don’t work. They want to create a different kind of life…and quite often feel that their hands are tied.

They want to be able to create able to create the life that seems impossible to achieve…a far off dream…

That’s where being a detective and NLP both come in…

Because when you have a client…and you know that NLP is the key to getting at the root of the problem…you have to get to the root of the problem.

You need to know what questions to ask.

You need to know when to ask the questions…so that it makes the most difference.

You have to look for clues.

You have to follow the clues.

When you find the problem, you can’t dig too deep…because you don’t need to go into a trauma in order to release it…or trigger a phobia in order to let it go…that is the simple beauty of Neuro Linguistic Programming.

It can be easy to let go of limiting beliefs…and simple.

So the questions are important. So is the way you ask the questions, the way that you frame them.

What kinds of questions do you ask yourself on a regular basis?

Are you able to play detective in your own life…to get to the root of anything that you want to change?

Because you can…

Sit still….think of what you want…think of what you don’t want…and ask yourself “Why is it that I really don’t have this?”

What answer comes up?

You might be surprised.

“The world is full of obvious things which nobody by any chance ever observes.” ―Sir Arthur Conan Doyle


Be your own detective…do some sleuthing…so that you can find out what lies underneath those behaviors and habits…you might choose to keep the ones that work…and let go of the ones that don’t…because life would be a lot more fun, that way, wouldn’t it?

“Drive your own life…you deserve to, don’t you?” Sherie Venner


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I am a Relationship Coach who helps others create happy, healthy, loving relationships…including the relationship they have with themselves…by breaking through those blocks and barriers to success. I use various techniques gathered through training as a Master Practitioner of NLP, timeline, hypnosis and common sense gathered through life experience.

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