Rekindling
love…for some people that sounds like a monumental task.
They are overwhelmed with life. They have so many responsibilities.
There are jobs to do…houses to keep…children to look after…and for some…even parents to look after. It can seem like a lot, can’t it?
In the midst of this, there is your relationship. It often takes a back seat to all of the other things that seem so pressing at the time.
Time has a way of passing…and before you know it…you might be sitting there…next to someone who now seems like a stranger to you…
It doesn’t need to be that way.
Rekindling Love in Relationships that Have Lost Their Spark
I’ve spoken about having values in common. I’ve spoken about taking time to be with each other. I’ve spoken about love strategies and not taking each other for granted.
Yes, these are all important…and what if you’ve done it all? You love each other but you feel more like friends. Or even worse. You feel like roommates…sharing a living space…sharing family…but that intense feeling of love is gone…
You know that you love each other. Yet, you don’t feel like you are “in” love. Do you know what I mean?
Is there anything that can be done? Absolutely…
I am making an assumption here. That assumption is that the foundation for a great relationship exists…that yes, there are values in common…that there was love…that there is respect…and even friendship…
In that case…rekindling love can be very simple…and it doesn’t have to do with flowers on Valentine’s Day or chocolates…although these are very nice…and have their place…: D
This Simple NLP Exercise for Rekindling Love
As a couple, take time out of your busy lives…and revisit memories…
If you have videos or pictures of the times when you were first together and romance was at a high…set aside an hour or two…and go down memory lane. Reminisce together about those times…and smile at each other…as you do…and feel those feelings of love…
And when you’ve done that…pick one of those times…a moment when you felt that you passionately loved each other…and see that picture in your mind…of that time…of that specific time…and see what you saw….all of those colors…make them brighter…and make that picture bigger…and full of life…hear what you heard…those words that you heard that let you know how loved you really are…
And feel those feelings…of love…of romance…when your heart beat just that little bit quicker when you were in the presence of the one you love.
Feel that feeling spread out from your heart and out….warm like the sun…touching the heart of the one that you love….and when you’re ready…step into that picture…in your mind…and just feel that….that’s right…and when you fully and completely remember it all…then know that you can have that feeling…right there…anytime you want it…
That love was always there…you just needed a reminder…and now you have it…that’s right…
And remember this…as well…”Where there is love there is life. Mahatma Gandhi”
Rekindling love in your relationship can be just that easy…if everything else is in place…it’s just remembering…and making that memory strong again…because what we focus on expands…doesn’t it?
If all else is right with your relationship and it just needs a jump start…then this rekindling love exercise is something you can use…when you need to…
“Drive your own life; you deserve to, don’t you?” Sherie Venner
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What a great way to revisit old memories and feelings. Thanks Sherie!
Helena Bowers recently posted..Want To Stand Out From The Crowd? Seven Types of Content That Add Value For Your Readers
You’re welcome, Helena!
Oh, the baggage that accumulates and gets in the way of the old spark!
Sharon O’Day recently posted..Financial Independence: A Quick and Dirty Path to Freedom
Well said, Sharon!
Great post and an important reminder to keep looking for that common ground – that spark, that romance that was once there – when in a relationship with a solid foundation.
Lisa Frederiksen – BreakingTheCycles.com recently posted..Want to Get Through to Teens | Talk to Their Brains
Thank you, Lisa!
Revisiting old memories is a great tip to rekindle a romance. Great tips and fabulous post, Sherie!
Lisa Birnesser recently posted..Stress Management: Your Health Depends On It
Thank you, very much, Lisa! : D
Hi Sherrie,
So true, It seems most relationships I see are about people who are more like room mates then soul mates. I know we all have busy lives, but just going out to dinner alone or a weekend retreat would do a lot to keep the spark going in a relationship.
Take Care.
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Absolutely, Justin! Our lives should never be so busy that we don’t have time for our loved ones. Appreciate you taking the time to drop by and comment, thanks!
I agree…I think it genraly is easier than we make it…..its just easy to get off tracka bit by the e, end of the day meaningless matters of life…just taking steps like these to get back on track, though they may seem so hard when off the rails realy are simple in the end…
If a relationship has good foundations, then these simple tweaks go a long way to getting it back on the rails! Thanks for your comment, Carl!
Excellent article Sherie! It’s so true that allowing a wee bit of time for visualizing is a powerful boost to positive emotions. Thanks
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Moira Hutchison recently posted..Positive Attitude: Tips For Success
It is! Thanks, Moira!
Oh, my … I can so relate to what you’ve shared (especially that “roommate” feeling…bleck). Thanks for providing a solution that is simple and not a hugeeeeeeeeeee effort.
You’re very welcome, MamaRed! So glad that you dropped by!
This is a great article, and a reminder of such an easy way to do this! It is so important to just take some time and remember what it was that made you fall in love in the first place.
Susan Critelli recently posted..5 Killer Strategies to Dominate Facebook, Twitter and YouTube
It is, Susan! Thanks for stopping by, reading and commenting!
I will try this and let ya know how it goes…
Wonderful, Liz! Yes, let me know how well it works for you! : D
Great post and just before Valentines Day! I will share
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Thank you, Anita!! <3
Hi Sherie,
Spending the time and doing a few simple things like an unexpected kindness can renew the positive energy in a relationship. I love your idea of looking at old pictures and remembering how you first met and fell in love. It is a great idea to bring a smile to one’s face. Thanks for sharing.
Cathy Taughinbaugh recently posted..Five Moms: Spreading Awareness About Cough Medicine Abuse
Yes, it can work so well! Thank you for reading and commenting, Cathy!
I love the reminder about revisiting memories. Although I am not in a romantic relationship right now, I do this with my parents and my daughter!
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Meryl, that is very sweet! : D
sherie, because I have been married for 27 years I do have to revisit the reasons I fell in love in the beginning. It’s so easy to rekindle the flame when I remember all the sweet moments we shared over the years. Great advice!
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Awww…thank you, my dear!
Loved that advice. My husband is so important in my life and yet there is always a wonder if things are going correctly. Will take our photo album out for Valentine’s Day.
Sounds like a great plan, Barbara! Enjoy those sweet moments!
Great tips as always, Sherrie. Some of the best are usually the simplest… Thanks!
Norma Doiron recently posted..How to Increase Visibility And Blog Profit
Sometimes we try to make things more complicated than they are! : D
I enjoyed this post Sherie. Finding ways (and the time) to rekindle romance is very important in a relationship. Bringing that feeling back, whether that means a trip down memory lane, a walk hand-in-hand, or a simple ‘I ((heart)) you today’ message for no particular reason keeps the good vibes going and strengthens your love.
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It does, Dawn…love your insights, my dear! I so appreciate your comment! : D
Thanks for reminding me to revisit memories, this is a good advice even for other situations as friendship too!
It works for relationships of all kinds, Meire! You’re very right!
Such a beautiful post, Sherie. Love this as well: “Drive your own life; you deserve to, don’t you?” Yes, I agree! Thank you and God bless.
Alexandra McAllister recently posted..Organo Gold Ganoderma Lucidum – The Wonder Mushroom
You’re welcome, Alexandra and thank you, my dear! Blessings back to you!
Love the idea of applying a resource state to relationships. If you did it before you can do it again. Bruce Lipton has a book coming out (came out?) titled something about The Honeymoon Effect and how that feeling of being in love DOESN’T have to disappear, that we can train our bodies to produce the chemicals that create that feeling. I’m looking forward to reading it, guess I should see if it has.
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Aimee, I haven’t heard of Bruce Lipton’s book. I will definitely look it up! Thanks for your comment. : D
I love the use of NLP for rekindling warmth in a relationship! What a great application. Thanks so much for sharing!
I agree, it is a wonderful application that works, well. Thanks so much for commenting, Leslie! : D
Love the “where is love” quotation. Just what I needed today.
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It is such an excellent quote, isn’t it, Catherine? : D
Sometimes we make things so complicated and when it comes to relationships I totally agree that the spark can go just because of little things rather than some huge issue. Love your advice to take a walk down memory lane and rekindle some fun memories!
Carolyn Hughes recently posted..A Super-Sweet Thankyou!
Yes, Carolyn, you’re right…sometimes it can just be a simple tweak that makes the difference! I so appreciate you commenting, my dear!