Goals are important to have. Yes. Most definitely.
When you’re in a relationship, shared goals are important, too, as well as the ones you have individually.
But what about sharing those weight loss goals, business goals, financial goals before they are a reality with large numbers of people? Is that a good idea?
I had the wonderful experience of attending a training seminar to become a Master NLP practitioner. One of the exercises we were invited to do was to go up to the front and share our income goals, if we wanted to. Now, many people did…in fact, most of them did.
Yet, strangely, I felt that I shouldn’t do it. At the time, I wasn’t sure why. I’ts just that it didn’t feel right to me, to go up in front of the group and say that affirmation of how much income I would be earning by next year.
So, I didn’t. I didn’t spend a lot of time thinking about it either. I like to pay attention to those gut feelings that I have and act on them. Because even though I don’t know the reason for it, there is one.
A year later, I found out the reason.
Keeping Your Goals to Yourself is an Important Step to Actually Achieving Them
Yes. My gut feelings were right. If you keep your personal goals to yourself, you stand a much better chance of reaching them. When you announce them to the world or your group, you get a sense of achievement…a feeling of already having reached that goal. Then, you lose momentum. ..and as we all know, momentum is important for getting those goals done!
Here is an amazing TED talk by Derek Sivers that explains it…so well! Please take a moment and watch it. It’s not very long and can be life changing for you!
How many of you have had this experience? You’ve started a brand new diet and you announce to the world that you’re going to lose X number of pounds. You feel euphoric just saying that and there is that feeling of accomplishment. The problem is that our brains then think that we have done that. Our friends pat us on the back, tell us we’re doing a good job…well, you know how that goes.
So, next time you have a major goal, if you do feel the need to share it, do so carefully. Watch the words that you use when you say it. Feel the emotions. If you can say it in a way that you don’t generate the feelings of achievement, you will be further ahead!
This does go against conventional advice to make a public commitment to goals. What are your thoughts?
“Drive your own life…you deserve to, don’t you?” Sherie Venner
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