When we start taking our relationships for granted, they can fall by the way side and in some cases, disappear altogether.
If you know that you are taking your relationship for granted or your partner is, and there is no abuse involved, then there are a few simple things that you can do to have more love, feel more appreciated and have a happy relationship.
Are these Ways to a Happy Relationship on your To-Do List?
1. Take a deep breath and think before you speak…that’s right…do you remember a time in your life when you were younger and you had a habit of speaking impulsively or getting angry quickly? Then…you might have said something that you regretted and here is the thing…words have power.
So, take a deep breath, or even one or two, and count to three…or 5…or 10…think about what you are about to say…and what the long term repercussions are going to be…do you really want to threaten to walk out when it isn’t what you really want to happen? Do you want to call your significant other foul names…the person you say you love? Really…think about it…it’s not worth jeopardizing a happy relationship, is it?
2. Be considerate about sleeping arrangements. I am an extreme night owl and while I sometimes can manage to get to bed at a decent time, there are other times when I am up writing until 3 or 4 in the morning. The time is quiet, the phone isn’t ringing…the house is quiet and I think best at that time. So, is it fair to my husband to keep coming in and out of the bedroom?
No…on those occasions, it is best for me to either wait until he gets up or I sleep on the couch. He is a person who snores and on nights when I am sleeping on a regular (not writing) schedule, if his snoring is bothering me, he offers to sleep on the couch (he is amazing, by the way!). A good night’s sleep goes a long way to keeping peace and harmony in a relationship. : D
3. Give a warning if you are going to be talking about something sensitive…either a heads up text, email or phone call works…the last thing you want is to come home after a tough day at work and have something nasty dumped on your head…like an overdue bill that was forgotten…or a bad report card…a nasty letter from the city about your barking dog…or your partner was laid off from work…know what I mean?
4. Be free with compliments. You know…I love that my husband is my best cheerleader…I appreciate that when I have a success that he is excited for me and that he wants to celebrate…do you do that or have that in your relationship? It doesn’t need to be a big gesture…sometimes, a big YAHOO and a big bear hug is all that is necessary.
5. Do small favors. This might seem like such a small factor in a happy relationship but it really matters. Imagine how you would feel if you walked into your kitchen after a hard night (you couldn’t sleep, were up with the kids, or something else…) and your kitchen is clean…and you didn’t do it. Your partner did, without being asked…it is a lovely feeling…kind of warm and fuzzy…
Never let a problem to be solved become more important than the person to be loved. Barbara Johnson. Tweet this!
Feel More Connected to Have a Happy Relationship
These small steps will actually help you to feel more connected in your relationship if both of you are doing them. In fact, even if only one of you starts doing them, there is often a snow ball effect. Your partner will often reciprocate because they feel more connected with you and they feel appreciated.
Even if you are in a long term stable relationship, with time, these simple practical tips can help you bring more love and joy into your relationship…and you will be able to create that happy relationship that you want. Stop taking the people you love for granted because we only have now…and they need to know that they are important. The little things do make a difference, don’t they?
“Drive your own life…you deserve to, don’t you?” Sherie Venner