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7 Simple Tips to Help You Love Yourself First…Today

The most important person that you will ever fall in love with is yourself…yes…the most important relationship you will ever have is the one with YOU…and often it is the relationship that most often gets put at the bottom of your to do list. Do you find it easy to love yourself first…not everyone does…

These two great quotes illustrate how important it is to love ourselves….and it is…you know…

"Love yourself, for if you don't, how can you expect anybody else to love you?" – Susan Lipsett and Liz Nelson

Have you ever fallen in love with someone because they treated you so well? It happens…and you know…it isn’t vain to fall in love with yourself, it is a necessary part of learning to nurture and take care of yourself.

Often, we put the needs of other people before our own needs and do it because we feel such strong bonds of love for the people we are in relationship with. What happens, though, is that we lose ourselves…and when you lose yourself…you don’t make a good relationship partner.

You end up stressed, burnt out, overwhelmed and fighting chronic tiredness and irritability. You become impatient with yourself and the others around you. The joy has gone out of your life…

"Wouldn’t it be powerful if you fell in love with yourself so deeply that you would do just about anything if you knew it would make you happy?"- Alan Cohen

These Simple Tips to Love Yourself First

Tip #1  When you get up in the morning, first thing…make your bed…before you do anything else. Take 5 minutes and clear out any clutter from around your bed, such as books, drinking glasses, any papers that are lying around or any garbage.

If you feel super energetic, wash those sheets (and then make the bed up)! Where you sleep should be treated with pride…like a sacred place…it is easier to fall asleep in a place that is clear and uncluttered…and you will feel SO good about yourself!

Tip #2  Smile at yourself in the mirror and say something great out loud…and mean it! I am talking about a huge, ear to ear smile that lights up that beautiful face of yours! Give yourself a big, self hug. Let that inner critic go…you can always get it back, if you want to…

Tip #3  Go for a walk, outside, and connect with the earth that we live on. Take a deep breath of fresh air and really, really look at that blue sky…notice the white clouds…and feel the breeze on your hair…if you are brave and the weather permits and you are in a safe place (like your backyard), take your shoes off and feel the grass between your toes!

There is an amazing connection to our inner selves when we connect with nature…In my city, there is a set of three pyramids, called the Muttart Conservatory…it is a wonderful place to go to and connect when the weather is bad or it is winter…there are so many places to do this…

Tip #4  Eat green foods…have a salad…make a smoothie…take care of your body…listen to it and give it what it needs…and floss your teeth…daily…if you have a hard time doing that, start with flossing one tooth…just do it every day…and soon…you will find yourself flossing all of the rest…just like that…

Tip #5 Spend 15 minutes alone, dreaming and visualizing what you want in life. In this busy, busy world we live in, 15 minutes alone can seem like a luxury that is out of reach.

It is critical to take this time for yourself. Let someone watch the kids (if you have small children at home) and take that time. Remember…put your own oxygen mask on first…then you can help others…

Tip #6  Spend 15 minutes doing something you love, like reading, writing, listening to music, playing a favorite game, or having a bubble bath…just for you…it will rejuvenate you…that taking care of you…when you learn to nurture yourself by doing those things that you love…even if it is only for a moment (and if you can’t find 15 minutes…find 5…)…it will make a difference. You need to remember who you really are….

Tip #7  Before you go to sleep at night, write down 5 aspects of your life that you are grateful for. There is nothing like feeling a sense of gratitude for your life to foster love in yourself…and if you can, take a minute to write down 5 things about yourself that you love…focus on those strengths…you do have them…you know…

Fall in Love With Yourself Every Day

You send a message to your unconscious mind of your concept of your worthiness when you take small steps to look after yourself. When you continuously put yourself last on a list of priorities, you deepen a belief of “not being worthy” and that isn’t good for you…and it certainly isn’t good for the people you are in relationship with…would you want to be in relationship with someone who thought so little of themselves?

Make yourself a priority and magical changes begin to happen. You feel happier, you have more energy and you become more filled with life…and the people around you begin to change…those who love you, love you more…those who don’t…quietly slip away…

So give yourself the gift of love and fall in love with yourself…love yourself first…so that you can give from a full cup…not an empty, hollow one…and see all of those changes begin to happen…you are SO worth it…

“Drive your own life…you deserve to, don’t you?”  Sherie Venner

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I am a Relationship Coach who helps others create happy, healthy, loving relationships…including the relationship they have with themselves…by breaking through those blocks and barriers to success. I use various techniques gathered through training as a Master Practitioner of NLP, timeline, hypnosis and common sense gathered through life experience.

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  • vinay July 24, 2013, 7:43 am

    Great tips Sherie! I am working hard on spending that 15 minutes of dreaming time and also the time reading and meditating. SO IMPORTANT! Thanks for the reminder!,,awesome tips ,,expecting excellnt tips from you in the next post..thanx for sharing

  • Theresa Cifali June 20, 2012, 7:17 am

    You absolutely have to love yourself before anyone else can love you! Great advice on how to take those steps if you’re struggling with that. Loving yourself can only bring you joy!

    • Sherie June 20, 2012, 8:38 am

      Itis a crucial element, that is for sure! Thanks so much for your comment, Theresa!

  • Sue Graber June 14, 2012, 10:03 pm

    Great tips Sherie! I am working hard on spending that 15 minutes of dreaming time and also the time reading and meditating. SO IMPORTANT! Thanks for the reminder!

    • Sherie June 14, 2012, 10:40 pm

      We all need reminding, especially in these busy times! Thanks,Sue!!

  • elizabeth Maness June 14, 2012, 12:49 am

    I want Tip 5.. Oh to have time to day Dream !! These are awesome self improvement tips ! They are great ways to improve your relationship with others.

    • Sherie June 14, 2012, 1:14 am

      Thanks, Liz! Take time for tip 5, really, really! : D

  • Lorii Abela June 13, 2012, 11:59 pm

    I do agree with you Sherie. We should learn how to love ourselves first before we love others. It because how can you expect others to love you when you, yourself don’t love the way you are. Thanks for sharing this awesome post!

    • Sherie June 14, 2012, 12:18 am

      You’ve got that right, Lorii! Thank you for your kind words!

  • denny hagel June 13, 2012, 8:45 pm

    I love this article! One of the things I stress with parents is to guide their children to understand their most important relationship is with themselves!! The root of all of our successes is deeply planted in our perception of what we deserve and how we feel about ourselves! Thanks!

    • Sherie June 13, 2012, 9:15 pm

      It really is, Denny…thanks so much for your comment and insights!!

  • Alexandra McAllister June 13, 2012, 2:07 pm

    I absolutely love your article, Sherie! YES! We must love ourselves first! Your tips are great! I do take good care of myself, I feel, eat well, exercise but I haven’t done TIP 2! Guess what I’m doing tomorrow? Thanks so much!

    • Sherie June 13, 2012, 2:42 pm

      Glad to hear it, Alexandra! : D

  • Olga Hermans June 13, 2012, 10:39 am

    Loving yourself is vital; people sense when you have low self-esteem and usually want to stay away from you. Or, you will attrackt the same kind of people in your life and start a whining group….that is not what we want if we want to climb to higher heights!

    • Sherie June 13, 2012, 10:59 am

      Absolutely, Olga, thanks so much for your comment!