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Overcoming Negativity: A Simple Plan


It is the middle of a dark winter here in North America and what better time to knock out negativity with a 5 day mini cleanse…Our patterns of belief and negativity are hidden in plain sight…obvious to others and not always to us.  You just need to know where to look.

“Dwelling on the negative simply contributes to its’ power” Shirley MacLaine


Here are some simple, easy steps to take that negativity monster down. For the next five days, do this!

Write Morning Pages

This advice I have borrowed from the brilliant Julia Cameron and her book “The Artist’s Way.”  Every morning, just after you have woken up, write…write until you have filled 3 pages…do it by hand, not on the computer, that way you connect your brain to the feeling part of you.  

When you do this, you will get all of the crap out and onto the page, instead of leaving it inside of your brain.  It is a tremendous process for release. If you feel any resistance to doing it, do it anyway and see what happens. 

You can destroy the pages after you are done, if you want. Don’t go back and read them or share them with anyone else, they have served their purpose.

Do Something Different

This is not as obvious as it seems.  If you notice that you do the same thing over and over again, why would you expect different results?  You will continue to get the same results, it is only logical.

Let’s say you look at one specific behavior that you have…perhaps it is a simple thing, like having a doughnut every afternoon after lunch.  The question is “How is that working for YOU?”  The behavior is not inherently bad…it is all subjective. Does it work for you or does it not work for you?

If the pattern is not working for you, then here is a simple way to get your brain’s attention.  When you catch yourself about to do the behavior, visualize a big red hexagonal sign with white letters saying “STOP”…that can be your personal STOP sign…

Then, immediately after you have stopped that thought, replace it with another. Do something different and perhaps do the opposite…that’s right…something different, then you will get a result you haven’t gotten before…maybe one that you like better.

Post Notes of Positive Experiences

Grab a package of post-it notes in a color that you like.  Sit down and write down 10 positive memories, not affirmations, memories of good things that have happened in the past.  After you have done that, scatter the notes around your house, in places where you are sure to see them during the day.

When you spy a note, go over to it, and remember the positive memory, feel the feelings, the good feelings.  Do that throughout the day and see how much better you feel. These tiny visual reminders can amplify those positive memories, if you let them.

Be Grateful For Where You Are Now

You started the day with writing morning pages, now it is time to end the day with writing notes of gratitude.  Keep a note book by the side of your bed with a pen or pencil.  Before you go to sleep, take 5 minutes and write down 5 things you are thankful for. It can be as simple as being grateful for the breath that you take.

When you write down even the smallest of things to be thankful for, wonderful feelings come up.  Magnify those feelings of gratitude and thankfulness, make them bigger, spin them around and really, really feel them in your body from the top of your head to the tips of your toes.  Then sleep well, and take those magnificent, wonderful feelings with you.

When the next morning comes, start over again.  Write your morning pages, stop your negative thoughts in their tracks and do something different, read your positive memory notes and at the end of the day…write down your thoughts of thankfulness.

Dig for the treasure that exists within your own heart and be your best friend. We can be our own worst critics.  If you recognize your own value, you can realize that there are exceptional moments in your life because of who you are.  Take time to think of the good that lies within you, that you do not give yourself credit for.  

These are simple things and because they are, they are doable and they will give you results, if you give them a chance.  We all have a destiny and when we release the negative, we can allow ourselves to have that, can’t we?

“Drive your own life…you deserve to, don’t you?”  Sherie Venner

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I am a Relationship Coach who helps others create happy, healthy, loving relationships…including the relationship they have with themselves…by breaking through those blocks and barriers to success. I use various techniques gathered through training as a Master Practitioner of NLP, timeline, hypnosis and common sense gathered through life experience.

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  • Matthew Reed February 13, 2012, 2:59 pm

    Great article!
    I so believe in the concept of giving thanks! It is one of the things that we were made for!

    • Sherie February 13, 2012, 3:40 pm

      Giving thanks is so very important!! Thanks, Matthew, and thank you for commenting!

  • Mary Page January 27, 2012, 7:08 pm

    Great article. Thank you for all the ideas that are simple and great to use any time. Thank you for reminding us. 🙂

    • Sherie January 27, 2012, 7:14 pm

      You’re very welcome, Mary and thank you so much!

  • Susan Preston January 27, 2012, 3:15 pm

    I love this article, Sherie. The one that resonated with me the most is, being grateful where you are right now. It is so important, as well as I have learned to have gratitude for the experience that adversity has given me 😉 Thank you, for another Amazing post!

    • Sherie January 27, 2012, 4:17 pm

      I love that you are grateful for the experience that adversity has given you…that is just brilliant. When we are grateful for what we have right now and summon those feelings up, we can move forward. Thanks so much for reading the post and for commenting, Susan. I am very grateful for you!!

  • Jane January 27, 2012, 10:41 am

    Thanks for this reminder, it was well needed! 🙂
    Take care!

    • Sherie January 27, 2012, 10:48 am

      You are so welcome, Jane, I am glad that it was useful to you! Thank you so much for commenting and you take care, as well! : D

  • Llison January 27, 2012, 10:29 am

    Fantastic post! I like how you give small ideas that can make a big difference in our day-to-day lives.

    The post-it notes idea is awesome! I do this with photos of my loved ones, or objects that remind me of happy times. Looking at reminders of a world outside of my workdesk makes a long, sad day go easier. 🙂

    • Sherie January 27, 2012, 10:47 am

      Lison, I love your idea of using pictures for reminders of your happy memories, outside of work. Thank you so much for your comment!

  • Liz Maness January 27, 2012, 10:27 am

    Sherri this is a winder article.. I have to work on it all the time! I’m glad a met you in our group.. you remind me to keep my head straight and how!

    • Sherie January 27, 2012, 10:54 am

      Liz, I am so glad to have met you, too! I am so glad that I have been able to help with my reminders. : D We all need reminders, every once in a while, don’t we? Thank you, my dear, for commenting, I really appreciate you!

  • Rob Hodgins January 27, 2012, 9:02 am

    Such small steps you suggest. Yet, such great things can come from following them. This is very good advice! Thank you, Sherie!

    P.S. I might call the morning pages the “mourning pages”! 🙂

    • Sherie January 27, 2012, 9:26 am

      LOL, Rob, “the mourning pages”, that is so perfect! Thank you so much for your comment! : D : D