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If You are Feeling Broken…

Everybody has problems.
Everybody wishes that their life was better. Everybody could have had a better childhood.

Does everybody feel that they are broken? No…absolutely not…

If you have been struggling with these feelings:

  • Of depression
  • Of anxiety
  • Of shame
  • Of guilt
  • Of anger
  • Of self-pity

…then it is no wonder that you have been feeling broken. Anyone would. The question to ask here, though, is it helping you? Is that feeling of being broken getting in the way of being happy and having the life you want? The chances are…the answer is yes.

Breaking Rocks for Real

I was a geologist in my youth. I did exploration geology. What that means, is that every summer, I was dropped off in Northern Alberta. We camped in isolated areas and we explored. I usually got lost because I was terrible with a compass. : D

One of my jobs was to venture out and collect rock samples. I carried a small prospector’s hammer for that purpose. When we came to an outcropping that we needed to take a sample of, out came my trusty hammer. I would bang away at that stone and try and get a sample.

It was hard. Sparks and bits of rock flew off as I hammered and hammered. I could work up quite a sweat. There is a lot of granite, a very hard stone, in Northern Manitoba. You know, rocks that didn’t have cracks in them were the hardest to get samples from. The rock outcroppings that had cracks…man, they fell apart and those samples were so easy to get…

When you release negative beliefs (no matter what technique you use), you develop cracks…and its gets easier to free yourself from that negative belief system…just like those rock outcroppings that were so easy to get samples from.

One of my favorite quotes is this one from Michelangelo:

Every block of stone has a statue inside it and it is the task of the sculptor to discover it. Click here to tweet this!


When You are Done with Feeling Broken


Here is a five step process that will make it easier for you to let go of feeling broken.

  1. Make a decision that you have had enough
  2. Decide what you really do want
  3. Find a modality that you think will work for you (affirmations, hypnosis, NLP, EFT etc. whatever you feel comfortable with)
  4. Work a program of letting go of those negative beliefs
  5. When those cracks in your negative belief system appear, hammer it through, so that you can realize that you always were whole, that it was there all the time…because it was…

If you are ready to let that feeling of being broken go, you can…because it is an illusion. You are not broken…in fact, you never have been…you just thought that you were. All along, under the layers and layers of protection of those negative feelings, has lain a complete and whole you.

Wholeness. It was there all the time. Even if you feel that you are broken, it is a temporary feeling, one that can pass.

In your life, you are the sculptor. You need to catch the vision of the statue, of that magnificence that lies within you. See that, even for a moment, and when you have had the opportunity to weaken that stone, through letting go of limiting beliefs…you can break free of feeling broken…just like that…

“Drive your own life…you deserve to, don’t you?”  Sherie Venner 

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I am a Relationship Coach who helps others create happy, healthy, loving relationships…including the relationship they have with themselves…by breaking through those blocks and barriers to success. I use various techniques gathered through training as a Master Practitioner of NLP, timeline, hypnosis and common sense gathered through life experience.

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  • Becky Fisher July 17, 2012, 2:39 pm

    Great post, Sherie — I love the statue quote!

    • Sherie July 17, 2012, 3:02 pm

      Thank you, Becky! : D

  • Theresa Cifali July 14, 2012, 8:46 pm

    Very encouraging post, Sherie. I love the steps that you lay out in order to beging to make a change. As always, the process starts with you.

    • Sherie July 14, 2012, 8:55 pm

      It most certainly does, Theresa! Thanks for commenting!

  • Designer Rob Russo July 13, 2012, 8:04 am

    Encouraging post, Sherie. And love the quote by Michelangelo. Gonna use that one!

    • Sherie July 13, 2012, 8:45 am

      Rob, it is one of my favorites! Go for it! Thanks for commenting.

  • Lori July 13, 2012, 7:33 am

    Great tips Sherie and I LOVE the quote you started off with! Thanks for sharing!

    • Sherie July 13, 2012, 8:45 am

      Thank you so much, Lori! I really appreciate you reading and commenting!

  • Dr. Sarah David July 12, 2012, 9:25 pm

    Sherie, thanks for such an inspirational post. Wonderful job! Love the analogy with the rocks.

    • Sherie July 12, 2012, 9:40 pm

      Thank you, Sarah! : D

  • denny hagel July 12, 2012, 8:54 pm

    Love your analogy! The only way to succeed is to do the work…find the cracks and follow the light! Thanks for sharing!

    • Sherie July 12, 2012, 8:55 pm

      Glad you liked it, Denny! : D

  • Edmund Lee July 11, 2012, 11:16 pm

    This is critical…the key point to making the change?


    • Sherie July 11, 2012, 11:47 pm

      Always, Edmund! Love your insight!

  • Lorii Abela July 11, 2012, 10:43 pm

    Sherie, definitely love this post. Also great insights and thanks for sharing your story. You analogy is truly awesome. Also love that quote by Michelangelo. And your steps on how to let go of negative thoughts and feeling is also great. Thanks again.

    • Sherie July 11, 2012, 11:02 pm

      Lorii, thank you so much! : D

  • Olga Hermans July 11, 2012, 6:54 pm

    Our negative beliefs can hold us back in every way; you gave some great insight to be free from it.

    • Sherie July 11, 2012, 6:59 pm

      Yes, they can and thank you, Olga!

  • Linda Jo Jenkins July 11, 2012, 5:27 pm

    Love where you said

    “In your life, you are the sculptor. You need to catch the vision of the statue, of that magnificence that lies within you. See that, even for a moment, and when you have had the opportunity to weaken that stone, through letting go of limiting beliefs…you can break free of feeling broken…just like that…” We can change the course of our lives by releasing all those negative thoughts–thanks for writing this and encouraging us.

    • Sherie July 11, 2012, 5:39 pm

      Awww…you are such a sweetie, Linda Jo! <3

  • Lisa Birnesser July 8, 2012, 1:13 pm

    Love this five step process, Sherie! great analogy to free yourself of negative beliefs. Thanks!

    • Sherie July 8, 2012, 2:59 pm

      You’re so welcome, Lisa and thank you!

  • Suzanne Jones July 7, 2012, 1:44 pm

    Love it and love the comparison! Great work you do Sherie! This is a conversation I just had with someone.

    • Sherie July 7, 2012, 1:55 pm

      Suzanne, you do great work, too! I really appreciate your kind words and am so glad that this a conversation that you are having with other people, too…I think it is an important one!

  • Anita July 7, 2012, 6:48 am

    I will be sharing this awesome post! Love the 5 steps and “drive your own life”

    • Sherie July 7, 2012, 10:26 am

      Anita, thanks so much! I really appreciate that!!

  • Susan Preston July 5, 2012, 6:54 pm

    Thank you for such a brilliant post. I love the analogies as well. There were so many golden nuggets of inspiring information. I will be sharing this on my social networks. Loved it, as much as I love you 😉

    • Sherie July 5, 2012, 7:34 pm

      Awww…Susan, you are such a doll, thank you so much for you heartwarming words…I so appreciate you, you are such an amazing lady! I love you, too!

  • Moira Hutchison July 5, 2012, 12:44 pm

    Sherie… I love love love this post ;). tying your rock collection story to how we deal with problems in our lives is great… encouraging people to be the sculptor of their magnificence is great!

    • Sherie July 5, 2012, 2:18 pm

      Moira, I am SO glad that you loved it!! Thanks so much for your comment!

  • Eva Blaskovic July 4, 2012, 8:59 pm

    Sherie, I love the analogies and the quote.

    • Sherie July 4, 2012, 9:12 pm

      Eva, so glad that you do! Thanks for commenting, dear!