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Whose Really in Control of Your Life?

You cancontrol of your life think that you have control of your life.

Then in a moment…it can all change.

You can plan.

You can schedule.

You can mind map.

You can visualize.

But there can be a moment…or a week…when you don’t feel like you have control of your life at all.

You can get sick.

You can break a tooth.

You can have a car accident.

You can fall down the stairs of your home.

And then…all of that scheduling and planning can go out the window…because in those moments…you don’t have ultimate control…and that is the difference.

In the big picture, we do control our lives…but those details…the smallest things…can get in the way…and even though we feel like we don’t have control of our life in that moment…we still do, don’t we? Because we are always at choice…

What Does Being in Control of Your Life Really Mean?

Does it mean that your life is rigid and that everything happens at a certain time, in a certain way, with certain people? For some people that is what it does mean…and that leads to a crisis when life goes the way that it does…

Because even if we want things to go a certain way, we can’t force them to do that. People have free will…and life happens…

Or does it mean that when we have flexibility of behaviors…when we can make decisions quickly…that even in times of crisis and uncertainty…that you do have control of your life?

It’s All About Flexibility of Behavior and Decisions

What we are in control of is our reaction to those life events. We can be prepared…and it is a great idea to be prepared…but you can’t be prepared for every eventuality. That can be paralyzing.

Yes, have an emergency fund. Yes, have a backup plan. Yes, make plans and have goals. Those are all essential to living a fulfilling life. You need to have a map in order to know where you are going, don’t you?

What happens when you are blindsided, though…and that event happens that you weren’t prepared for? Perhaps your partner has come home and announced that they no longer want to be married to or in a relationship with you…and you didn’t see it coming…

What then?

These Being in Control of Your Life Quotes


Learn from the past

“Learn from the past, set vivid, detailed goals for the future, and live in the only moment of time over which you have any control: now.” Denis Waitley

We do only have now…it’s the only moment that we have the guarantee of. See that bright and brilliant future…and live in the present…and know that by doing that…even if you have to readjust your path…you can have that future…

You cannot control what happens to you


“You cannot control what happens to you, but you can control your attitude toward what happens to you, and in that, you will be mastering change rather than allowing it to master you.” Brian Tracy

Attitude is everything. Change is constant…whether we want it to be or not…and how flexible we are in reacting to it, depends on our attitude.

“The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity. The fears are paper tigers. You can do anything you decide to do. You can act to change and control your life; and the procedure, the process is its own reward.” Amelia Earhart

Make that decision. When we don’t make decisions, we are stuck…and it is one of the main causes of procrastination…a lack of making a decision to move forward.

“I believe that you control your destiny, that you can be what you want to be. You can also stop and say, ‘No, I won’t do it, I won’t behave his way anymore. I’m lonely and I need people around me, maybe I have to change my methods of behaving,’ and then you do it.” Leo Buscaglia

You do have a choice…and because you have a choice…ultimately, in the big scheme of things…you do have control of your life…even if you didn’t know it…so…no matter what happens…or did happen…if you can accept that responsibility…then, no matter what happens…you can feel that you do have control of your life…because you do…

“Drive your own life…you deserve to, don’t you?” Sherie Venner


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I am a Relationship Coach who helps others create happy, healthy, loving relationships…including the relationship they have with themselves…by breaking through those blocks and barriers to success. I use various techniques gathered through training as a Master Practitioner of NLP, timeline, hypnosis and common sense gathered through life experience.

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