Laughter and relationships.
Yes. It is a concept that we tend to forget is important. Because…after all…if you are an adult and you are in a “serious” relationship…well then…there isn’t a lot of room for fun, is there?
Relationship Tips. #1: Laughter is the best medicine. Take time every day to find something that you both can laugh about…a memory, an oops, something funny that you heard or saw. Share it with each other!
Here is one of my favorite laughter quotes:
“A good laugh overcomes more difficulties and dissipates more dark clouds than any other one thing.” – Laura Ingalls Wilder. Tweet this!
When you think about it…if you actually say that you are in a “serious” relationship, what are you telling that unconscious mind of yours? Are you telling your unconscious mind that it isn’t a good thing to be light hearted and have a joy filled relationship? Be careful…your unconscious mind listens to your words…
No wonder so many people find it hard to enjoy their spouse or partner once they tie the knot. They literally give up the idea that they can have fun. Dating was fun and filled with laughter. Being single was fun and filled with laughter. Think about it…sometimes, it just takes a simple change of perspective to make that turn around.
Letting the Laughter into Your Relationship
If laughter is the best medicine, in your life and in your relationships…you have to let it in so that it can do it’s work, don’t you? Here are some simple steps to make that Relationship Tips #1 work:
- Smile at each other. With the hassle and routines of daily life (and if you add children to that mix…well…oh my…), this one is so easy to forget. Make it a rule that you drop your days baggage at the door when you come home and smile at each other, first thing. You can talk about problems later. For now, when you see the person you love, remember what you love about them…and smile.
- Keep a mental note of the happenings of the day that were funny. Share those things. It might be as simple as seeing a video on the internet of a cat doing silly moves. In that case, you can email each other during the day and share your thoughts when you get home.
- Tickle each other. Play with each other. Laughing has so many benefits. It gives you a rosy flush and you naturally bring in more oxygen to your lungs.
- Watch a comedy together. If you have a favorite scene in a movie, talk about it.
- Share a fun activity. Make the everyday things fun as well as the special events (like vacations). Yes, you can be playful when you put the dishes away…really…
- Laughter is contagious. Once one partner starts genuinely laughing at something funny, it spreads…you’ve been there haven’t you…when you don’t find it terribly funny and your partner starts to laugh…and you can’t help yourself…before you know it…there is so much laughter in the room…and it feels SO good…doesn’t it?
What Would Happen if You Really Had More Laughter in Your Relationship?
Ask yourself that question and see what comes up…laughter can cement bonds in relationships. If you are in the middle of a conflict and you do something unexpected that will make your partner laugh (something that is not disrespectful to them), it can break a negative stuck state. Make sure that your partner does not think that you are laughing at them. That doesn’t work…at all…
Laughter and relationships are a good mix, if it is done right…if you are laughing together and enjoying the time you spend with each other, you will strengthen your relationship. Seriously…give it a try… and let me know what happens…stay tuned…I’ll be writing about more relationship tips, soon!
And remember this…“A day without laughter is like a day without sunshine and a day without sunshine is like … night.” Steve Martin
“Drive your own life…you deserve to, don’t you?” Sherie Venner
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I agree that laughter is the essence of life.. one can create pleasant environment with laughter & Jokes
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Yes, laughter is important!
Love the point that you make about being in a “serious” relationship. Your mind does pay attention to the words you use, and that was a big Aha moment for me. Thanks!
Your mind does pay attention, doesn’t it? ; D
Laughter really helps so many with so much. And we look better, younger, grow confidence, and the list goes on. So I say, Why not?
Laughter has SO many benefits! : D
Great advice. Just what I needed after the past two weeks.
: D Glad to help, Catherine!
It really is the best meds to get you going and keep you going !!! Thanks Sherie! I love to come here and get the cope.. to be a better person from you..;)
Awww…sweetie…thanks so much! I learn from you, too! <3 <3
Such wonderful insights 🙂 I think sometimes life can get in the way and its so easy to get caught up in a bad day. We have to choose to be happy! I am sharing your wisdom my dear!
It can be easy to get caught up in a bad day. When we understand that we have the power to choose, it makes life work a lot more smoothly. Thanks for sharing, my dear, I so appreciate you!!
Great advice. Many, many years ago we adopted the motto “it could always be worse” and we try and look for the humor in everything. Sometimes we have work pretty hard at it and sometimes it would appear that we are a bit off, but we’re still here–and still laughing–together.
Marie, love that motto!! What an awesome example of laughter working so well in a relationship! : D
I love laughing. I call it best laughing therapy. It works in any relationship. At work, in business, in friendship and marriage. Laughter is good exercise too…
Tatyana
“Best laughing therapy”…I like that, Tatyana! Thanks so much for commenting!
I’m with you here. Laughter is the best meds of them all.;) I love my husband because he’s so funny!!
Funny husbands rock! : D
Yes, laughter works like medicine for sure. It is such a good feeling to laugh and really feel a release of the stress that is built up during the day. I love it when that happens; I yield to it because I know what it does to me. So, yes…laughter is very important, thanks Sherie!
Olga, love your insights! Thanks so much for your comment!
Sherie, you are so right… we need to lighten up and laugh more… it will lighten our burdens. My 96 1/2 yr old mom-n-law is in a nursing home because of dementia and being wheel chair bound. Some days when we visit, she is very happy and contented but other days she is having some type of discomfort. Often, after being there for awhile when she is having a bad day, I’ll say to her, “I haven’t seen your nice smile today.” Most generally, she will give us a nice big smile. That smile helps her forget her pain, etc. and at least enjoy the moment. When she gives us a nice smile, my husband always tells her that it makes her look 10 years younger which usually brings another smile. Thanks for sharing your laughter today.
Pat, laughter is so important and how fortunate is your mom-n-law to have you saying that to her and helping her smile. Smiling is such a wonderful force for good. Big hugs and smiles to you and your mom-n-law! : D
I so agree with you. “Laughter is the best medicine. Take time every day to find something that you both can laugh about…” Whenever a relationships gets touchy, this is something that needs to be looked at.
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Exactly, Norma! Appreciate your comment!
A good laugh does help, even if the situation doesn’t go away. What I loved about the Ingalls family was their attitude, which helped them survive anything and remain emotionally intact.
I loved the stories about the Ingalls, too! What an amazing family! Yes, a good laugh can really help. Thanks so much for your comment, Eva!!
I agree with you, Sherie! Laughter is the best medicine not only in a relationship but laughing at ourselves as well. I am not in a relationship but I have learned that laughing is much better than crying. Since my small stroke a few months ago, I forget things, trip over my own feet and the list goes on. I first got upset at myself but then figured out that it wasn’t good! So, now I just laugh, share with my friends (who love to hear what I messed up this time) and move on! Life is good!
Alexandra, I love your positive attitude! You have taken what life has given you and make lemonade out of lemons…you are amazing, my friend!
You definitely hit the nail on the head with this one! I’ve have always said the glue that keeps my 30+ year marriage together is humor. We laugh all the time. Plus, my husband is very funny and if I am on a tear about something, he can say something funny to break my aggravation. It’s a win/win!
Martha, that is so cool that your husband does that! It really does work. Thank you for your kind words and for sharing your story of how humor has been the glue in your amazing 30 + marriage. Way to go!
Sherie, I find that the most powerful form of laughter in a relationship is our ability to laugh AT OURSELVES! It seems to take any sting or judgment out of the other forms of humor … and is a testament to our self-esteem and self-confidence.
Oh, definitely, Sharon. Love that view point!