When I first
started learning about NLP, I didn’t know that my childhood love of mysteries and detective stories was going to play out this way in people’s lives.
My love of the stories of Sherlock Holmes and unravelling mysteries through the adventures of Doctor Who…well…they don’t compare to the satisfaction of unravelling the mystery of why a person keeps creating the same results in their lives.
People can create relationship anxiety, phobias, failures in career or relationships, depression…whether they know that they are creating it or not…through limiting beliefs and strategies that don’t work. They want to create a different kind of life…and quite often feel that their hands are tied.
They want to be able to create able to create the life that seems impossible to achieve…a far off dream…
That’s where being a detective and NLP both come in…
Because when you have a client…and you know that NLP is the key to getting at the root of the problem…you have to get to the root of the problem.
You need to know what questions to ask.
You need to know when to ask the questions…so that it makes the most difference.
You have to look for clues.
You have to follow the clues.
When you find the problem, you can’t dig too deep…because you don’t need to go into a trauma in order to release it…or trigger a phobia in order to let it go…that is the simple beauty of Neuro Linguistic Programming.
It can be easy to let go of limiting beliefs…and simple.
So the questions are important. So is the way you ask the questions, the way that you frame them.
What kinds of questions do you ask yourself on a regular basis?
Are you able to play detective in your own life…to get to the root of anything that you want to change?
Because you can…
Sit still….think of what you want…think of what you don’t want…and ask yourself “Why is it that I really don’t have this?”
What answer comes up?
You might be surprised.
“The world is full of obvious things which nobody by any chance ever observes.” ―Sir Arthur Conan Doyle
Be your own detective…do some sleuthing…so that you can find out what lies underneath those behaviors and habits…you might choose to keep the ones that work…and let go of the ones that don’t…because life would be a lot more fun, that way, wouldn’t it?
“Drive your own life…you deserve to, don’t you?” Sherie Venner
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Interesting way to connect the dots – looking for the clues & NLP. Thanks for sharing this with us.
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Appreciate that, Gary, thanks!
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Thanks for the post. I like how you use the idea of being a detective Self discovery is important as well as finding out important items about others. Good post:)
Self discovery is so key! Thanks so much for your comment, Daniele!
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I was just recently introduced to NLP. We covered a lot of this when I went to a 4 day video marketing weekend. A lot of it had to do with mindset and finding the root of fear. Really cool stuff. Now when I have a negative thought I stop and search why I feel that way. Great post! Thank you.
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Way to go, Katrina!
Sherie recently posted..Have You Always Wanted to Be a Detective?
It was good to know more about NLP! Your posts are always inspiring Sherie! It is good when we go after our own answers, analyze them and make changes to get what it is really important to us!
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Awww…thanks, Meire!! It is good to go after our own answers because we do have them…when we look!
Sherie recently posted..Have You Always Wanted to Be a Detective?
I love mystery books & movies. I’m dating myself but grew up in the days of Nancy Drew and The Hardy Boys. I still like mysteries in my fantasy world but really not in my real world. Of course, there are many in my life. Some I want to solve and others can just go unsolved. Thank you for the ideas of how to ask the right questions to find the answers.
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Pat, those were awesome stories and they are still being read today…so you didn’t date yourself! ; D I so appreciate your comment!
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I really enjoyed this post, Sherie. Thanks for a look inside NLP and how it can help us let go of those underlying beliefs that hold us back.
Carla, so glad that you dropped by and read it! Really appreciate that!
Sherie recently posted..Have You Always Wanted to Be a Detective?
Timely post fro me Sherie as this applies to something I am struggling with with ‘me’. I will be sharing!
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Anita, thank you, my dear! You rock!
Sherie recently posted..Have You Always Wanted to Be a Detective?
Sherie you have detected what is going on for me at the moment! I’ve recently started a creativity course and it has raised two really important questions for me. “How did I get here?” and “Where am I going?” Both will need some serious sleuthing!
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And you will be the perfect detective, Carolyn!! <3
Sherie recently posted..Have You Always Wanted to Be a Detective?
Great post, a lot to think about here!
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Thank you, Katrina!
Sherie recently posted..Have You Always Wanted to Be a Detective?
Yes, I deserve to drive my own life!
Yvonne Brown
Absolutely, Yvonne!
Sherie recently posted..Have You Always Wanted to Be a Detective?
Sounds like NLP is the perfect fit for you, Sherie.
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It definitely is, Marie!
Sherie recently posted..Have You Always Wanted to Be a Detective?
Interesting, Sherie! I never thought of NLP in this way. As a very long-time fan of detective fiction, though, I’m intrigued. 🙂
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There are so many different ways to look at things, Shari! Appreciate you dropping by!
Sherie recently posted..Have You Always Wanted to Be a Detective?
Playing detective isn’t always fun but it is necessary sometimes. I have had to do this with my own children and my own personal life. But it is important to get to the root of the problem, than to dance around it.
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Well said, Christy!
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This is such a helpful post, Sherie. I am being my own detective lately. You write: “Sit still….think of what you want…think of what you don’t want…and ask yourself “Why is it that I really don’t have this?” Questions I’ve been asking myself and working it out. Thanks so much for sharing this. 🙂
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Alexandra, you are so welcome, my dear.
Sherie recently posted..Have You Always Wanted to Be a Detective?
Interesting take on being a detective to find that person…
Thanks for your comment, Rob!
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